According to Lisa Aronson Fontes, in an article published in Psychology today, “Intense romance can be a form of grooming.” Grooming can include any of the following actions: Your partner gives you undivided attention e.g. putting their phone away when you are together, their attention fixed on you Your partner moves into your apartment inRead more
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In an article on domesticshelters.org, Kristen Paruginog, founder and executive director of Break the Silence Against Domestic Violence, discusses how her partner helped her from her to transition from an unhealthy to a healthy relationship. Paruginog shared her story with her partner soon after they met. Here’s how her new partner was able to helpRead more
In a blog post on BTSDV (Break the silence against abuse), the topic of consent is explored and how to educate teens. However, it is not only teens who need to be educated about consent. This is what consent looks like: consent is when someone gives clear permission for something to happen, whether a sexualRead more
Julia Philips, a writer, shares what she learnt as a rape crisis counsellor. She explains entering the first training session and feeling completely overwhelmed as she was surrounded by a family therapist, nurses, sex educators and public defenders who were also volunteering to be counsellors. Philips remembers thinking how underqualified she felt for the roleRead more
Jude Miller Burke completed a research study in 2017 with 300 successful men and women that revealed that “40% of them reported experiencing childhood abuse, witnessing family violence, or having an alcoholic parent while growing up.” Burke documents that even more of them “reported growing up in poverty, having a parent with a mental illness,Read more
Healing after abuse is a long, arduous process. Thomas Fiffer shares a list of the challenges that survivors don’t share or rarely share. Fiffer’s article paints a clear picture of the daily struggles that survivors face after leaving an abusive relationship. Below is a short summary of the article. Leaving and staying away from someoneRead more
VersAnnette Blackman-Bosia writes about the journey of healing after experiencing domestic violence. The article is targeted at single mothers who face additional challenges to leave an abusive relationship. Caring for their children and carrying that financial burden alone is a big deterrent for women to leave an abusive relationship. Although the hardest part of theRead more
In an article by Sherri Gordon, she explains how victims stay in abusive relationships because they fear not being able to provide “financially for themselves and their children.” Financial security is also recorded as one of the main reasons that women return to the abuser. Therefore, it is important to identify signs of financial abuseRead more
Bonnie Koehn, in her article, Early Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship, writes about how abusers can be very charming in the early stages of a relationship and for this reason women are usually drawn to them. Therefore, it can be difficult to identify signs of abuse, and often it is only identified when the partnerRead more
It can be difficult to differentiate between someone with a bad attitude and someone who is abusive. In an article by Maria Miguel, the issue of emotional abuse is tackled in a lot of detail. In the article, You’re Not Crazy, But Emotional Abuse Can Make You Think You Are, Miguel explains some of theRead more