It isn’t always easy to recognise abuse, especially when you’re living with the abuser daily facing physical, emotional, verbal, and/or financial abuse. When you love someone, and they say they love you too, it can be hard to believe they would intentionally hurt you. That’s why it’s important to take a step back and reflectRead more
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After you’ve experienced a domestic violence situation, you can doubt your ability to identify good people who will add value to your life. You start to close-up, not trusting your instincts. You aim to protect yourself, to not let anyone get too close to you because if they’re not close enough, they won’t be ableRead more
Dr. Knoll, who is the director of forensic psychiatry and associate professor of psychiatry, indicates in his article published on PsychCentral that many people “are unable fathom how a human being could commit such acts without being under the influence of some powerful alien force”, acts such as the horrific mass public shootings in ElRead more
People in abusive relationships tend to do a lot of introspection. They wonder why it has happened to them, what they have done to attract this poor treatment from someone they love or who says they love them. It can be a very confusing time for a victim of domestic violence. When you experience domestic,Read more
Gaslighting happens every day and in every environment, whether it be work, the media, school or at home. According to an article published on Psychology Today, by professor and author Preston Ni, “gaslighting can be defined as a combination of brainwashing, psychological bullying, and emotional abuse for domination and control.” He says that “in ourRead more
You could be stuck with a victim mentality and not even aware of it. Christine Hammond, who a is Licensed Mental Health Counselor, explains on Psych Central how easy it is to get stuck. In her article she described the behaviour and words of someone stuck in this mentality. Below are some examples You complainRead more
It can be difficult to identify abuse, especially when you’re the target. It can be even more difficult to identify it when there are no physical scars and bruises. Sometimes victims question themselves, on whether the abuse is really happening. Christine Hammond, who is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, explains verbal abuse in more detailRead more
The to-do lists of women are often long, because it not only includes personal priorities, but it also includes prioritising your family, partner, extended family, in-laws, boss and colleagues. It can be never-ending, so how do you find the right balance, take care of everyone and everything else in your life without neglecting yourself? MargaritaRead more
It can be difficult for someone who has experienced abuse to set boundaries, because they are so used to living with someone who did everything possible to invade all their most private moments and experiences. Whether you’re still in an abusive relationship or not, never stop communicating boundaries. Boundaries remind people that you value yourselfRead more
Abusers use manipulation tactics to get what they want. According to Jenn Rockefeller on breakthesilencingdv.org, these are some of the tactics they use. Gaslighting Gaslighting tactics are used to make their targets question their sense of reality, they make the victim believe that what is true about the abuse or situation is merely a figmentRead more