In another enlightening article by Shahida Arabi, a bestselling author on topics of Narcissistic Abuse, she explains why the daughter of an abusive father ends up with abusive partner. According to Arabi, abuse survivors develop qualities of immense resilience and an ability to empathise with others because of years of abuse. In an abusive household,Read more
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When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist it can feel like you are carrying the entire weight of the relationship, the good and the bad. A narcissist is only interested in their own satisfaction. Below is a list of things you can expect when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist. When a conflictRead more
You could be abused and not aware of it. It can be difficult to identify abuse, especially in an intimate relationship, when you love someone, and you believe they love you. It is also difficult for people to identify abuse because being treated poorly has become normal to them, which should never be the case.Read more
An anniversary of trauma, or ‘traumaversary’, is any incident that happened in your past that evoked disturbing emotions within you including fear, anger and regret. Traumatic incidences become etched in our mind because of the deep emotions it evoked when it happened. Trauma anniversaries can include the death of a loved one, an incident ofRead more
According to Lisa Aronson Fontes, in an article published in Psychology today, “Intense romance can be a form of grooming.” Grooming can include any of the following actions: Your partner gives you undivided attention e.g. putting their phone away when you are together, their attention fixed on you Your partner moves into your apartment inRead more
In an article on domesticshelters.org, Kristen Paruginog, founder and executive director of Break the Silence Against Domestic Violence, discusses how her partner helped her from her to transition from an unhealthy to a healthy relationship. Paruginog shared her story with her partner soon after they met. Here’s how her new partner was able to helpRead more
In a blog post on BTSDV (Break the silence against abuse), the topic of consent is explored and how to educate teens. However, it is not only teens who need to be educated about consent. This is what consent looks like: consent is when someone gives clear permission for something to happen, whether a sexualRead more
Julia Philips, a writer, shares what she learnt as a rape crisis counsellor. She explains entering the first training session and feeling completely overwhelmed as she was surrounded by a family therapist, nurses, sex educators and public defenders who were also volunteering to be counsellors. Philips remembers thinking how underqualified she felt for the roleRead more
Jude Miller Burke completed a research study in 2017 with 300 successful men and women that revealed that “40% of them reported experiencing childhood abuse, witnessing family violence, or having an alcoholic parent while growing up.” Burke documents that even more of them “reported growing up in poverty, having a parent with a mental illness,Read more
Healing after abuse is a long, arduous process. Thomas Fiffer shares a list of the challenges that survivors don’t share or rarely share. Fiffer’s article paints a clear picture of the daily struggles that survivors face after leaving an abusive relationship. Below is a short summary of the article. Leaving and staying away from someoneRead more