Society has a very limited view of what constitutes abuse. To most people abuse means a blue eye, bruises, and blood. This limited knowledge of abuse is dangerous. It excludes all other types of abuse. If people don’t know what abuse is, they won’t know when it is busy happening to them. They will tolerate toxic behaviour from family, friends, colleagues and their partners, because they don’t know how to identify some of the intricate signs of abuse.
Below are some examples of abuse which you may not have heard of before.
- Physical Abuse
Physical Abuse is not merely blue eyes and bruises. Physical abuse is when someone intimidates and isolates you. Intimidation is when someone gets into your personal space e.g. “standing over you, looking down on you, or getting in your face and then refusing to back off.”
Isolation can be when someone abandons you in a dangerous situation e.g. your partner takes you on a date, gets into a fight with you when you are far away from home and takes off in the middle of the night leaving you there.
- Mental abuse
Mental abuse occurs when people play mind games with you by twisting a situation or playing the victim card. The abuser will never accept responsibility for his behaviour. They will twist the situation around to place blame on you for their actions and “instead insist on an apology from you.”
If twisting doesn’t work, the abuser plays the victim card “to gain sympathy and further control your behavior.”
Abuse comes in many forms. It’s important to be aware of the subtle signs of abuse, accept it for what it is and protect yourself from people who behave in this way towards you. For more examples of abuse click here.