After you’ve experienced a domestic violence situation, you can doubt your ability to identify good people who will add value to your life. You start to close-up, not trusting your instincts. You aim to protect yourself, to not let anyone get too close to you because if they’re not close enough, they won’t be able to hurt you.
According to an article on PsychCentral John Amodeo, a marriage and family therapist, “to open our heart to another human being is the ultimate act of courage.”
The nature of a successful relationship requires you to become vulnerable about your fears and to be authentically yourself. He says that in relationships, “We allow ourselves to fear, to wrestle with fear, and find our way through without being crippled by it. In a relationship, this means expressing difficult truths, and communicating our genuine feelings and needs in a kind way rather than by blaming, attacking, or manipulating others.”
Click here to read Amodeo’s full article.