It can be difficult for someone who has experienced abuse to set boundaries, because they are so used to living with someone who did everything possible to invade all their most private moments and experiences.
Whether you’re still in an abusive relationship or not, never stop communicating boundaries. Boundaries remind people that you value yourself and it sets the tone for how you expect to be treated.
Margarita Tartakovsky, associate editor on Psych Central, gives some practical examples of some of the boundaries you can consider. Below are some of them.
- Spend less or no with a judgmental friend.
- Not responding to work calls, texts and emails after hours.
- Choose a specific time to go to bed at night time.
- Decline invitations to events you don’t want to attend.
- Say no to any commitments that occur during times you attend church.
- Place you phone in another room when busy with work or with family.
For more ideas on when to set boundaries, read the full article here.