Elizabeth Brico, who is a writer from the Pacific Northwest who covers stories about life after trauma, writes in this article about her experience of fighting for custody of her child from her abuser. Here’s a summary of her experience with the custody proceeding and how it affected her:
- The abuser had an attorney, and she could not afford one which already placed her at a disadvantage especially considering that financial abuse is often the main method used by abusers to control the victim.
- Litigation gave the abuser the opportunity to dig into very private issues, a process that abusers enjoy as it gives them an opportunity to publicly humiliate the victim.
- When protection orders are in place, the lengthy process of the court proceedings, which can last months, even years, provides the abuser an opportunity to be in contact with the victim at the courts despite the protection order.
- The abuser contested all her testimonies and she was forced to talk about abuses she had not even addressed in therapy.
- Everything she suffered, including PTSD, which was a result of the abuse she suffered, was used against her by the abuser’s attorney to help the abuser win custody.
Read her full story here.